Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Letters From Vietnam




Recently while going through some memorabilia I came across a collection of letters I had received from various boyfriends during my senior high school year and my first year of college, 1964-1966.  While I don’t remember the reason for keeping these letters, I do know that I had some awareness that they were somehow important. My choice to re-read these letters now was mostly to learn more about my adolescence and how I viewed romance during this time of my life.

To be truthful, I did not find  what  I expected which was  statements of admiration for me; statements about missing me, and  eagerness to get back to normal life and dating me as soon as they returned.  My expectations were quite egocentric.  I only had one letter that mentioned looking forward to dating me when he returned. 

Instead these letters focused on daily life, feelings of loneliness, eagerness for home and familiar places.  One letter focused on the physical terrain of Vietnam; another one described his daily routine; still another mentioned how we could make our home town a better place when he got back. One of the guys talked about the loneliness of standing guard at night and a longing for someone who could speak English.  One letter talked about the food and customs of the Vietnamese.

Having not found what I expected, I put the letters away, but continued to think about them.  Why had I waited so long to re-read them?  Did these guys survive?  Where might they be now? What was their life after Vietnam? 

 Looking back fifty years now I realize how important daily coping is in a foreign place where you never knew who or what the enemy was. I now understand the horrors of war, not because I fought in them, but as someone who realizes the glory in surviving a war. I also understand that we grow and understand more when we are placed outside our familiar comfort zone and are forced to find new pieces of ourselves.  Perhaps these young guys found comfort in this strange and unwelcoming environment by writing a letter to someone ‘back home’ in order to survive another day or another week, or another year. I only hope that the letters I sent in return, as immature and awkward as they were, were somehow helpful and made life more bearable for them.

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